The secret and sneaky truth behind my New Year’s resolutions
I said I wasn’t making any New Year’s resolutions. I really meant it.
But it’s the second week of the year and I have to face the truth:
I broke my “non-existent” resolutions.
“I don’t do New Year’s resolutions.” (I said this. Did you?)
Inside, though, I secretly decided I would get up and do 15-20 minutes of yoga on the weekdays. I also secretly decided I would get back to running 3 times a week.
I was so sneaky about it I didn’t even realize I was doing it… until I broke them.
Second week of January… I’m fighting a cold, well, clearly the sleep is more important than the yoga. And best to not run so my body can have all its energy to fight getting sick.
And I’m disappointed in myself.
But, seriously, why am I disappointed if I didn’t actually set New Year’s resolutions? (smh)
So now I’m thinking about how to approach the reality: I set New Year’s resolutions despite my best efforts and my denial about it.
I’ve got a few options: Frustration. Disappointment. Irritation. Or… celebration!
And I’m inviting you to my celebration of not keeping my resolutions. Let’s start a party for the un-kept resolutions!
Here are my reasons to celebrate:
- I’m normal – it’s a human thing to set resolutions and not keep them
- I can practice self-compassion in this moment – it’s really hard starting new habits
- I can start again today – every day is a new start, every week is a new start, every month is a new start… why let January get all the glory when there are 11 more months in 2018 to start new things!
I tend to be negative and frustrated about false starts, but the research shows beating myself up isn’t good motivation. Sure, there’re times for pep talks, but a little kindness to myself actually creates more motivation than harshness.
And after two days of kindness, I started again today with 15 minutes of yoga. Who knows about tomorrow, but I’m satisfied with today.
How about your new year? Did you secretly set some resolutions? How are they going? Go easy on yourself if they are un-kept. In fact, come join my party!
Today is a new day. Tomorrow is a new day. Start again, anytime!
Real quick, before you go, I’ve got a gift for you!
I published a new eCourse and it’s free for the taking. eMotions will help you understand how your brain deals with emotions and how those emotions impact your actions. And you’ll learn how to control runaway emotions.
In the course I share a story of my runaway pony and the things I’m learning from him (and my 8 year-old self) even today. Thanks, Buddy! You were a great pony and I’ll never forget you!
All the best to you in 2018! I look forward to staying connected.