Wait! Before you cross over into 2018…
There are two reasons I’m writing today:
- To invite you to Before you cross over into 2018… 4 tips for ending 2017 well – a free eCourse
- To acknowledge this time of year is wonderful for some and really hard for others, and perhaps a mixture of both for you
First, number 2.
I remember sitting at my mom’s kitchen table crying. It was Christmas day, 2006. My second Christmas without Eric. I don’t remember what the conversation was about. I just remember crying. Specifically, starting to cry without any apparent reason. My family comforted me as best they could, but there was a deep underlying sadness inside that was difficult to console.
It started in October that year—the month of my anniversary with Eric (it would’ve been 7 years for us in 2006). Then in November, it was Thanksgiving—a favorite holiday of Eric’s. December, of course, brought Christmas—another favorite time of year for him. January marked Eric’s birthday, and then February was the anniversary of his passing.
So, Christmas day, 2006, was right in the middle of a stretch of reminders of memories, of loss, of pain, and it was hard. For several years after losing Eric, those months were really difficult. Some people say the first year after a major loss is the hardest. For me, it was the second year.
If you can relate to the holidays being a tough time of year, I’d like you to know you aren’t alone. I feel alone and disconnected more than I like to admit, but every time I gather the courage to talk about what I’m going through, there’s someone nearby who can relate. And I realize I’m not alone.
You aren’t alone, either. And that is perhaps the most important thing to know right now.
If you’re feeling alone and disconnected, please reach out. It takes courage and feels scary, but it’s worth the risk.
Now I’m jumping back to the number 1 reason for writing today. Which really is the number 2 reason. (doesn’t really matter, so if I’ve confused you, just move on)
I’m a future-focused person. I don’t like to dwell too much in the past. I don’t like when people talk about “going back” to the way things were. We can’t go back. It’s impossible, I usually say.
But at the end of the year, I believe looking back has value. Before crossing the bridge into 2018… to take a few minutes and reflect on 2017… this is a tradition I began last year. (new traditions are good!)
For me, finding the value in 2017 includes acknowledging my regrets, identifying at least one thing I’m proud of accomplishing, keeping my focus on progress not perfection, and being kind to myself.
I’ve found this reflection to be so meaningful, I want to share it with you. So, I put together a free eCourse called Before you cross over into 2018… 4 tips for ending 2017 well.
It’ll take about 20 minutes to read over. I know it’s tough to find any spare time in the month of December, but see what you can do. Grab a cup of tea, your journal, get comfortable and give yourself the gift of reflection and connection today.
Thanks for journeying alongside me this year. I’d love to stay connected as we finish 2017 and explore what 2018 has to offer!